How I Became a Stay-at-Home Mom

Homeschool Edition BlogPrior to marrying my husband, I was a single mom of my two older children Elijah and Mj. From the age of 17, I always had a job. As a single parent, I put myself through college and completed my bachelor’s and my master’s degrees. When I was 22, I secured a home for my two children and I to live. I was always in control of my household income. I was the bread-winner.

When Elijah and Mj were ages 9 and 7, I met my husband Travis. Two years later we got married. About three months after we got married, Travis presented me with the option of staying home to be a stay-at-home mom (SAHM).

Although the opportunity to stay home sounded enticing, I honestly didn’t feel very comfortable with staying home. I was so used to working that it felt a little surreal to me. Travis said he understood how I felt and for me to think about it. He said whichever decision I made, to stay home or to work, he would support.

I didn’t come to the decision to be a SAHM right away. It took me a few months to decide. Staying home and relying on my partner’s income to care for our family was a very foreign concept to me.  Not only was I more accustomed to working, but I was not raised in a home environment with a SAHM. My mother was a career woman and a single mom, too. She served in the U.S. Army and then established a career in the nursing field until her retirement. I didn’t even know what that felt like to have one parent stay home.

After thinking things over, I decided not to be a SAHM and continue working at my teaching job. I just didn’t feel ready. But as I continued working, I found I couldn’t stop thinking about what it would be like to be a SAHM.

I talked about it with a close friend of mine and she said she thought I should give it a try. She said I never had the chance to stay home with my children since I had been a single mom. I realized she was right. I could at least give it a try and if I didn’t like it, then I could always go back to work.

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I love my family!

My final day as a working mother was in December of 2011. I would say after about two months of staying home, I fell in love with my new role as a stay-at-home-mom. No, it wasn’t an immediate feeling of love because I had to let go of a lot of angst and fears. I worried about if I had made the right decision and would we truly make it on one income.

I also felt like I was doing something wrong. I worried about what others would think about me. But soon I let go of all those negative thoughts and I started focusing on the joys of being a SAHM.This is also where I had to start trusting in God and His plans and will for our family.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” -Jeremiah 29:11

I also soon realized being a SAHM is truly a job, no make that a career. You may not get a pay check, but you certainly do put in the work hours because it is hard work! I quickly developed a greater appreciation for moms who stay home to care for their family.

It has been 5.5 years since I took a leap of faith and started my stay-at-home-mom journey. Yes, there are some challenging times I face, like if I’m really tired and just want some time alone. But there are so many joys that far outweigh the challenges. Becoming a SAHM is one of the best decisions I made and I am very happy with my new “career”!

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  1. Latonya

    May 17, 2017 at 11:28

    Thanks for sharing your story! I felt the same way about not working. It was so engrained into me that being with family felt like I was doing something wrong too. I might have to share my stay at home mom story.

    1. Jennifer

      May 17, 2017 at 22:18

      Yes, share your SAHM story! I’d love to read it! It’s funny how we felt bad about staying home with our kids when it really wasn’t a bad thing. It took me a few months to stop feeling that way.

  2. Evelyn Reese

    May 17, 2017 at 23:14

    I love your story, SAHM is definitely a traditional non paying career. It is and can be very rewarding in is own right! Thanks for sharing this one.

    1. Jennifer

      May 19, 2017 at 00:37

      Thank you, Evelyn! I can’t believe it’s been almost six years since I became a SAHM! Thank you for reading.

  3. Kita

    May 19, 2017 at 06:58

    Stay at home mom is a tough job but so worth it. I have no regrets about doing. Now that I have my own business which sustains my family, I see how much more worth it it is.

  4. EG III

    May 19, 2017 at 09:34

    Beautiful story and beautiful family. I actually shared your blog because I think it’s great inspiration for other mom’s (or dad’s for that matter) that are on the fence about becoming a stay at home parent.

  5. Ashlee Adams

    May 19, 2017 at 12:39

    I work from home but I send my little to school. I look forward to a time when I have the freedom to have her home with me!

  6. Ivelisse

    May 19, 2017 at 13:48

    What an amazing blog post! I NEVER EVER thought I would want to be a SAHM. A couple of months after the hubby and I got married I was let go from my job and was unemployed for 7 months. I thought I would go crazy without a job. Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful that I have been at my current full time job for almost 2 years, but man. I’m not sure if when we decide to have kids I would still want to work outside the home. That’s why I have my #sidehustles LOL!
    Ivelisse |

  7. Camesha | Mama Motivator

    May 19, 2017 at 21:48

    I took the leap almost 4 years ago. There have certainly been times that I’ve questioned my decision. Still, I love being more physically present with my kids. It helps that I have my own outlet as a writer. I think it’s so important for moms to have something that’s just for us. It’s so easy to make ourselves last on the list.

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