Pregnancy Update: I’m Not Going to Miss You, First Trimester!
I have been keeping a list of writing topics to write about on the blog. I didn’t want to forget them as time went on because I knew I didn’t have the time to write. I’ve been meaning to sit down and write a post or two, but either something comes up with the kids or I start feeling sick again (first trimester pregnancy). I’m so glad I thought to start the list. Now that I am feeling better and I have found balance again in my days, I can start writing again.
A Rough First Trimester
The first trimester of pregnancy was a little rough for me. I was sick pretty much all of the time. Morning, afternoon, and night. It sucked, to be quite honest. It was even more a challenge feeling sick and having my two little ones to care for. They didn’t understand that Mommy was sick. I don’t know. I think it’s possible they sensed something was off with me, but they didn’t truly understand Mommy’s sick and needs to rest.
That’s why I am so very thankful for my older children– my two teenagers. Elijah and Michala have been such a blessing during this pregnancy. Whenever I was having a hard day with morning sickness, they were very willing to help me out. Elijah would always ask me, “Are you not feeling good today? How can I help?” He was so caring and very patient with me. He would even encourage me to not worry myself with having a hard day. He’d insist on helping me out and letting me rest.
It’s okay to let go, Mom.
I’m so used to being the one in control that it was hard for me to surrender my control to my teens and even my husband. I mean, Mom’s the one who keeps everyone and every thing running. We can’t have her sick, especially for a long period of time. But life happens and moms get sick, too. It can’t be helped. The entire experience taught me it’s okay to have hard days and depend on my family for help.I learned that sometimes I have to let go and trust in my loved ones to handle things. And so what if they don’t do it the way I do it (Mom the perfectionist)? Everything will be just fine.
I’ll also admit, I was fretting a bit about homeschool. How are we going to get this and that accomplished if I am sick? I can’t get up and move around like I’m used to because I don’t have the energy. What if we get behind? Yes, after all these years of homeschooling, I still have those fears and worries.
Life happens! No worries?
No worries? Oh, that’s so easy to say, right? But when you’re a mom, it’s hard to not worry. But I had to stop worrying and keep my focus on my health. So what did I do? I had to literally tell myself to snap out of it and stop worrying so much. I focused on what I could do and I took my time with it.
If on Tuesday the teens completed two subjects, then that was a great accomplishment. It was a successful day! If I was able to do preschool activities with my toddlers on Wednesday, but I needed to rest on Thursday, that was okay, too. It was still a successful homeschool week!Focusing on what you CAN do is a successful homeschool day! Click To Tweet
Perfect example: one day I wasn’t feeling very well. I had originally planned to do our routine preschool schedule, but I just couldn’t do it. I felt too sick. So instead I let my toddlers paint pictures from one of their paint books. They loved it so much and it kept them busy for a little while. When they were ready to do something else, I let them play with a basket of toys I had set out for them. We didn’t get to do our preschool routine, but they were able to do art and enjoy playtime together. It was still a fulfilling learning experience for them. And they were happy.
I did the best I could and my best was going to be good enough. My kids were still happy and learning every day. Sometimes I had to teach while I was resting on the couch. That was okay! We may have had some off days or our routine wasn’t our “normal” routine, but that’s okay. We adjusted and did our best. And you know what, we didn’t fall behind after all. Turns out by taking our time, we still stayed on track.
Hello, Second Trimester!
Now I am in my second trimester and I am feeling better than I did a couple of weeks ago. I still have some occasions where I feel ill and need to rest, but it’s not as often as it was in my first trimester. I am starting to feel more energized, too. I am very thankful for my family’s great patience and support while I was sick. Now I’m ready to get back to my old self and get busy again!
And about that list I’ve been keeping of writing topics…I plan on sharing post on each topic over the next few weeks! Have a blessed week!